A few weeks ago a couple of my friends came back to the game, and since then they’ve been leveling to 85 and trying to decide on what to do. Although they’ve both been raiders in the past, with their current schedules, they aren’t in any hurry to find a guild. However, the upcoming transmogrification is very exciting to one of the pair, so 4 of us banded together to tackle the final bosses in BC to try to flesh out his sets.
Things were going rather well. We’d taken down BT, SSC and were working on Hyjal when another player asked to join our group. As only two of us were actively collecting, this seemed like a great plan since more bodies meant faster clearing, and we really wanted to finish Sunwell too. When they joined, they seemed confused as to why we would have loot on FFA, and we explained that it made looting randoms easier, and anything that would bind could be discussed in group; however, player A & B had priority since they were the main motivation for the run. They still seemed a bit put out that we didn’t have it set for rare+ so that they could just roll and not have to loot, but frankly, we liked our way since people could speak and haggle to their heart’s content without a pesky timer.
Things went along swimmingly, and a bit faster with the extra person. We rapidly finished up Hyjal and went over to Sunwell. Although we had a little mixup with killing the dragon before her shadow, we just got spit back out and were able to retackle the boss. We happily finish off Kil’jaedan, and Thori’dal drops! Exciting times! We got an achievement for our guild. But as I go to take a gander at what else dropped, I notice something odd… the bow is gone. The player that had asked to join us had looted it.
The player didn’t tell anyone they were looting it. They tried to “trade it around” afterwards only to discover it couldn’t be traded. Since that was our last dungeon of the night, and it was getting rather late, the group broke up. It wasn’t until sometime the next morning that I realized that I was aggravated….like, seriously aggravated. It’s not that I wanted the bow, I didn’t. I personally would have given is to Player A since he was the person we were doing the dungeon for (and he could have used it) or Player B who is a known achievement whore. However, if neither wanted it, it would’ve defaulted to the other player since they were the only other class who could use it.
However, this player bypassed our casual and carefree looting system among friends, and made loot a priority over relationships with groupmates. I have an issue with that. It’s not like the loot’s good for anything except its cosmetic or achievement ability. It doesn’t help that this is someone I’m guilded with and must interact with on a weekly basis. This incident has changed my perspective on their character, and I’m a bit disappointed at the result.
Being the person that I am, I haven’t discussed this with the player. I haven’t played since that night, and like I said earlier, it wasn’t until the next day that it even occurred to me that I was unhappy about how they’d handled themselves. I do know that I don’t want this person in another casual run with me right now. On the other hand, I don’t think this affects their ability to raid or to be a good group member, so I’m hesitant to make an issue out of it past my own backyard (as it were) since there’s really nothing to be done about it. The person chose to do an action that cannot be undone.
Since I’m in a quandry, I figured I would do what I usually do when upset or bewildered by the actions of others, and come ask the advice of my readers.
Would you choose to let the issue drop, and just hope it’s one of those “greed of the moment” type things, or would you talk to the player about it?